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UPLIFT: Secrets from the Sisterhood
of Breast Cancer Survivors

 

The road along our journey through life is often littered with challenges that can test our strength and fortitude. Reaching out to friends, family, co-workers, support groups, and other resources gives us the tools to meet those difficulties head on. Breast cancer is one challenge that 1 in 8 women will face during their lifetime.

Barbara Delinsky, author and long-time advocate of breast cancer awareness, has written UPLIFT: Secrets from the Sisterhood of Breast Cancer Survivors. UPLIFT is a handbook of practical tips and upbeat anecdotes collected from breast cancer survivors, their sisters, children, parents, lovers, and friends. Presented in their own words, these women and men share their stories to encourage others who will trod the road toward breast cancer survival.

groupshot2.JPG (105037 bytes)UPLIFT: A Positive Evening at 
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Melissa Hamilton had the opportunity to attend a book signing for Barbara Delinsky's book UPLIFT. Chris Foutris and Therese Gunty, contributors to UPLIFT, shared their experience as breast cancer survivors.

Visit Uplift Booksigning to read about this exciting evening.

The Genesis of UPLIFT

Barbara Delinsky was eight years old when her mother died of breast cancer. The disease would again cross her path when she herself was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1994. As a breast cancer survivor, she wanted to help women with the disease and also to raise money for research. It had been Katherine, a fictional character in Delinsky’s novel Coast Road, that sparked the idea for UPLIFT. Delinsky had received tremendous positive feedback regarding Katherine, a breast cancer survivor, from her readers. She recognized she had the "ears of millions of women and because of that I could make a difference." The idea for UPLIFT was born.

Breast Cancer & Some Statistics*

New cases of Breast Cancer
Diagnosed in the Midwest - 2000*


Illinois: 8,900
Indiana: 2,100
Iowa: 2,100
Michigan: 6,700
Minnesota: 2,800
Ohio: 8,600
Wisconsin: 3,300

*Statistics from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and American Cancer Society, 2000

In 2000, according to the American Cancer Society, breast cancer was the most frequently diagnosed nonskin cancer among women. It was second only to lung cancer in cancer-related deaths. It was expected that 182,800 new cases of female breast cancer would be diagnosed in 2000. Nearly 40,800 women were expected to die from the disease.

The positive news is that breast cancer death rates in women 20-69 has declined by 25% since 1990. Researchers attribute the decline to early detection and improved treatment.

When we view statistics, we may tend to see only numbers and percentages. The personal experiences of those who go through breast cancer put a "face" on the disease. UPLIFT invites you into the thoughts and feelings of the women and men who have been introduced to the "C" word personally.

Being A Friend to A Friend

The strength, friendship, and tangible assistance that friends can bestow on those going through breast cancer is incalculable. In UPLIFT, readers are able to learn about themselves and what they can do when it comes to helping a friend diagnosed with breast cancer.

"Fear" is openly addressed in the book. We are "afraid to speak about breast cancer," or "afraid we won’t say the right words" when we discover someone has breast cancer. A common response by submitters to UPLIFT was to "let people hug you" and a simple "good luck, we’re thinking of you." A phone call or brief note to say "thinking of you" was always appreciated.

How can you help a
friend with cancer?

•Offer your presence often and be a good listener
•Tell them you are there when they need you
•Talk about things other than their cancer
•Say "I love you"
•Say "I’m sorry"
•Ask what you can do to help
•Respect how they choose to cope with their cancer

Excerpt from Supporting a Friend with Cancer: Do’s and Don’ts

www.About.com, 12/19/01

"One of the nicest things    people can do for a cancer patient is to send food to the house," was a comment made by Susan, diagnosed in 1990 at age 46. Whether sending a card, flowers, or tending their garden, being a friend to a friend is what it is all about.

Note: UPLIFT also addresses the role of men, family, co-workers, and support groups.

Closing Comments

UPLIFT: Secrets from the Sisterhood of Breast Cancer Survivors was designed to take a positive approach to breast cancer by sharing the experiences of those who have journeyed that road. In her Forward closing, Delinsky said she felt the people in the book were upbeat, resourceful, generous, and warm. They were "eager to share their experiences and their hope of making things easier for others."

Recommended Resources

http://www.barbaradelinsky.com.

Barbara Delinsky’s Web-site.  In the "Health Center" category, you can find information regarding UPLIFT.  (The category may also be reached by using www.teamuplift.comYou can read on-line entries or submit an entry via the guestbook entry form.

http://www.nbcam.org

The National Breast Cancer Awareness Month Web-site. National Mammography Day is the third Friday in October. The day, proclaimed by President Clinton in 1993, is dedicated to increasing awareness of breast cancer issues, particularly the importance of early detection. 

http://www.cancer.org

The American Cancer Society home page. You can also call the American Cancer Society at (800) ACS-2345 for local groups that ACS or others sponsor. You may obtain free brochures on preventing, diagnosing, and treating different kinds of cancer by ordering them on-line or by phone.

 

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